Canzi Wang, Ph.D.

When I work with Asian and Asian American couples, I often notice something that can be easy to miss: They usually do know how to communicate. They communicate about schedules, childcare, finances, work, family responsibilities, and what needs to get done. They may even be good at solving practical problems together. And yet, underneath all of that, one or both partners may quietly feel: “I don't feel loved.” “I don't feel understood.” “I don't know if I matter to you.” This

“Have you ever wanted to suggest couples therapy… but stopped yourself?” “Because you were afraid your partner might feel blamed, judged… or think something is seriously wrong with the relationship?” “A lot of Asian couples don’t seek help — not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know how to talk about it without making things worse.” “But what if the problem isn’t who’s right or wrong, who loves more deeply… but that both of you are stuck in a cycle where no one

看着屏幕里紧紧拥抱着的这对夫妻，我默默地抽了张纸巾拭去眼角的泪水。他们的手臂环住对方，丈夫壮实的身躯整个裹住妻子，她的身体就像是嵌在他的身体里，他们喃喃耳语，轻柔地告诉对方”我看到你的付出，你的委屈、悲伤，我在这里。” 这一刻，我什么都不用做，就静静地与他们同在，感受他们之...

8月7日，参加了朋友们给CC办的追思会和下葬。这是我第一次经历身边的朋友因为残忍的暴力犯罪而失去生命。对我的冲击也是不曾感受过的，沉重的悲伤之上还有对施暴者的愤怒和痛恨，对她家人和留下的年幼的孩子们的疼惜和担心， 震惊于微信圈里和前一个月刚见过的活生生的人变成新闻里的看到的...